Message to pushy parents.

Cut it out! I understand you want the best for your kids, but there's a fine line between motivating and being pushy. Why wouldn't you want your child to get straight A's through school and get scholarships to the most prestigious schools, or have sports scouts praising their athleticism, or be on television singing the s#*^t out of ABC ? With these plans in mind, parents feel obligated to push their children, and many of those parents push way too hard. What many parents don’t realize is that by forcing their children to do things that are fun, they take the fun and joy out of it. Rather than simply letting children discover their own hobbies or passions, parents are deciding what their children should like.

Joe Jackson and son.

 I can’t tell you how many times I have talked to kids whose parents forced them to participate in extracurricular activities or volunteer opportunities just so that they could add it to their college applications. What kind of lesson is that? -- do things just so that you can selfishly use them to your advantage in the future, rather than doing things because they are fulfilling or meaningful. -- This competitive attitude and behavior of parents who want so badly for their children to be the best, may in fact be causing them to fail. The overwhelming pressure leads children to lose motivation and become so obsessed with meeting their parents’ expectation, that they lose any sense of connection or satisfaction. It is like when you are playing a game simply for fun, but someone is so intent on winning, that all you want is for it to end. Maybe that is why students are so unexcited and stressed out by the thought of school. If all they are focusing on is an end result, than they lose the entire point of education, which is supposed to be learning. There is nothing wrong with nudging your kids in the right direction; Pushing them is wrong.

Check out this Article on pushy parents
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-1381201/Is-payback-time-pushy-parents.html